A surprising book !

How to be badass, by Jen Sincero:

hi everyone it’s Salomé ,hope you are all doing well !!I recently read this book, and I wanted to share my feelings about it.I heard about it in a youtube video,and I thought,why not The genre is “Self Help “ “Personal Growth” which sounds a bit creepy in my opinion,but just so you know what I will be talking about  .Immediately after ordering it ,I regretted I thought it was an impulsive expend and I would never read it or not appreciate.I thought that because I don’t really believe and “positivism” “meditation” I feel like all these things stop you from feeling any emotions at all.And,since we are human we feel things and we need to accept them,process them and not repeat positive things that we actually don’t feel if we are not feeling them.It doesn’t mean we have to cry all the time ,but I feel even happier,more fulfilled when I allow myself to be sad ,anxious,irritated, annoyed…We are not robots,we are human we go through things,we meet people so yes we change and we need to go through some sometimes hard phases where we feel a lot of hard things.Or sometimes we are not positive and don’t want or can't be and that's ok.

So before reading it I wasn’t totally in agreement with the author’s point of view”the power of meditation” “don’t doubt of your gratefulness””the power of mindset”.When I saw that in the contents page  it didn’t motivate me to continue . But I forced myself and realized that I would learn something at least even if I wasn’t in agreement with the author. And that’s what I will try to share with you,because in the end I actually liked that book. I learned a lot and it made me reflect and realize a lot of things.That’s why I wanted to share my experience with you.(in case anyone   reads that)

The first thing I liked about this book was it’s structure.There are 5 parts  that start with “How to “and in each one of them there are about 6 chapters like….”Give and let Give” “”Remember Surrender".It’s great because if one day you need specific advice,or quotes to understand your feelings or to motivate you you know which page to go to.That makes it easier.

During each chapter there is usually a little personal story from the author’s life which contextualize the advice.The advice and it’s explanation are followed by a quote that is usually motivating to follow this advice.The quote is written in bigger than the rest of the text,which is practical  ,when reopening the book you can have access to it quickly.

So that’s about the structure of the book. 

But on the first page of the first part,she wrote “I used to think quotes like this were a bunch of crap[...] I found it unforgivably chessy” which reassured me a lot and so it motivated  me to continue.

Here are quotes I enjoyed and that made me reflect:

• “You are a reflect of the quotes you live by”Jenny Holzer

•  ‘’We tiptoe through life hoping to safely make it to death’’ unknown

• ‘’most answers reveal themselves through doing and not thinking ‘’ jen sincero

• ‘’most people are living in an illusion based on someone else’s believes‘’ jen sincero

• ‘’you are a victim of the rules you live by’’ jenny holzer

I would also like to share here some passages and general subjects that the book made me reflect on.

To start with the first chapter on the subconscious was really true to me .It was basically saying that sometimes in your adult life you can you live by rules that you had during your childhood.And basically if your parents always told you you would never get married you may never get married.because a part of your brain considers that what was repeated to you during years and years by people you were closed to is true.This point hit me because during our teenage years and and ,even when becoming an adult it’s really important to have your independance and a part of that starts with living by your own rules.So sometimes you have to acknowledge that what your subconscious is telling you isnt what is right for you.Because now you have become someone else with other convincing and desires.Sometimes of course your subconscious is telling you the right thing.

Sometimes it's hard to know which one is the best for you but I think that it’s good to sometimes just  realize that your subconscious is handling a situation.Knowing that might make you change your mind.

Then the chapter 4 about the importance of well surrounding yourself  made me learn one lesson ,one tip ‘’recommend keeping your mouth shut around people who are going to bring you down.Seek those who will bring you up’’Indeed you are a product of who you surround yourself with ,so surround yourself with people that make you be a better person..Also sometimes the solution to feeling better in your shoes is cutting people of,sometimes just people aren't good for you anymore and that's okay.

In the chap 6 loving yourself  something interesting i learned is that comparaison is that fastest way to take away all the fun and positivity in your life.I feel like we compare ourselves too much during teenage years which is probably normal.But when i read that book i told myself:it's none of my business what other people are doing!

This article was some of the stuff I felt like sharing out here.Thanks having taken the time to read.

have a nice one

salomé