Let’s shake the way of thinking as Virginia Woolf did !

Hello Charlie’s !

Today, you are going to change people mind, as one of the first feminist, a brilliant woman named Virginia Woolf did, one century before us.

Virginia Woolf is one of my role model, she is exactly what I want to be later. As an independent, smart writer, she made things happen changing way of thinking about women thanks to her words and her modern thoughts.

With her sister, they found Bloomsbury group, where openminded artists and intellectuals discuss about modern social questions as lesbianism, women’s access to education, bisexuality…

You have probably already heard about her famous feminist essay « A Room of One's Own » written in 1929. Behind this enigmatic title hides her long fight about the space of women’s writers in a world dominated by men.

« A woman must have money and a room of her own if she is to write fiction. »

What most astonished me about this fight, it’s still a current issue ! Unfortunately, between 1929 and 2020, women’s space in literature and society hasn’t change so much. 

« Why did men drink wine and women water ? Why was one sex so prosperous and the other so poor ? What effect has poverty on fiction ? What conditions are necessary for the creation of works of art ? »

As she did in her books, I asked myself a question :

Why men feel superior to women ? 

In our society, still today, be a man means be viril, have power and money, be strong and don’t cry. It’s an heavyweight for a boy who wants to become a man. So maybe, if men belittle women it would be more to raise themselves and their sex than to demean women. 

 

Fortunately, world is moving, our generation Z is aware of this issue and already express itself in an no gender way. 

Thus, to change people mind, we have to educate society that human must not be determined by his/her sex but rather by his/her personality, feelings, tastes… To break the prejudices to let men and women become and love who they want freely.

 

 

 

 

Another question I asked myself about the word virility : 

Is the notion of virility have to change ? Or have we to stop to use this word because it should no longer match with men’s ideals ? 

I’m counting on you to help me to answer this question in comments ;)

I apologize myself for my grammar mistakes hoping you enjoyed my first article nevertheless.

I would love to have your opinion about these questions in comments. 

Maybe together, we can make things happen !


Gradiva 

Me too : you too ?

Dear Charlie, I'M BACK. I know, I know... too many emotions. Keep calm and carry on reading.

Today I’d like to talk to you about feminism. Feminism is a movement I admire a lot, because I do consider as normal that women and men should be on the same level. I will not take that much about it today but more about #MeToo movements or even “Balance ton porc” in France for example. Even if I believe they are essential to feminism, I’d like here to talk about their dangers.

Indeed, I believe that they can be extremely dangerous for societies, and I’d like to begin with the presumption of innocence. It is a judicial principle which is extremely important to me.

The presumption of innocence is the legal principle that one is considered innocent until proven guilty. In many countries, presumption of innocence is a legal right of the accused in a criminal trial, and it is an international human right under the UN's Universal Declaration of Human Rights, Article 11.

Source : Wikipedia

With these movements, the problem is, to me, that men cannot defend themselves. Indeed, when a person, usually a woman, declares having been sexually attacked by a man, even if most of the time it is true, the man has got no way to defend themselves or just to present their point of view. I’m sure that we all know the power words can have -we study them !- and this power can be used again someone. Words can be the interpretation of a situation, and objectivity is extremely hard to reach, especially in such a situation. Therefore, women can describe something in the perception of it while men will have a completely different perception of the scene they have been witnesses of.

Obviously, here, we can say that men will not tell the truth in order to protect themselves, but, well, we have no law which says it is always the case, so let’s be pragmatic !

  

With these feminist movements, laws have been promoted. Even if it is not necessarily enough yet, they are to be used, in my opinion. Still in my opinion, women and more generally everyone should be using laws and courts in order to find justice in a certain situation. Therefore, all conflicts would be solved in a court.

Because the problem is a court case is held on Twitter is that you have the supposed victim on one side with most likely the biggest part of the internet with them and on the other hand the supposed rapist who is abandoned by his friends and family and who receives insults, etc. Even if some may think this is legitimated by the fact that this person deserves what happens to them. They don’t. First of all because in many cases there is still no proof that the situation has happened a certain way and secondly because even if they should deserve this, the best way to solve problems is to go in front of a judge. Otherwise, if we use Twitter to hold cases, we arrive in a society of permanent denunciation, where there is no access for the supposed guilty person to their basic rights, and where such violence is held to them that the supposed victims of the beginning almost become bullies.

Therefore, to me, the best way to solve problems, notably of that kind, is just to use justice.

“Truth never damages a cause that is just” M. Gandhi

Well Charlie, I think I’ve played enough devil’s advocate… Let’s conclude on me restating that I really support feminist movements.

I’ll be back soon (isn’t the term ending ? hey Mrs C :D -- JOOOOKE)

T